In the same way we get a lot of power from splitting tiny atoms in the form of nuclear energy, you can unleash great power in your life with tiny changes
Your habits shape your identity
The four steps to building better habits
Make it obvious
Make it attractive
Make it easy
Make it satisfying
...the aggregation of marginal gains." ~Dave Brailsford, Performance Director of the British Cycling team
Massive success does not always require massive action
Over time, a tiny improvement can make a huge difference
Habit improvements compound like money compounds with interest
Be patient
Be disciplined
Don't slide back into your old routines and habits
On a flight from L.A. to NYC, if the plane is 3.5 degrees off course, it will miss NYC by 225 miles and land in D.C.
Why is it so easy to repeat bad habits and so hard to form good ones?
We try to change the wrong thing
We try to change in the wrong way
Three layers of behavior change
Outcome (Get)
Processes (Do)
Identity (Believe)
Most of the time, we work from the outside in
We need to work from the inside out, i.e., from the identity to the process to the outcome
Shift the focus from what you want to achieve to who you want to become
"Want a cigarette?" "No, I'm trying to quit."
"Want a cigarette?" "No, I'm not a smoker."
Behavior that is incongruent with the self will not last
The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity
Take pride in yourself, and you'll be motivated to maintain the habits
True behavior change is identity change
Improvements are only temporary until they become part of who you are
Become a reader
Become a runner
Become a musician
Get out of your cognitive slumber
"I'm terrible with directions."
"I'm not a morning person."
"I'm horrible at remembering names."
You create your own reality of negativity
Identity conflict is your main barrier to positive change
You are self-sabotaging because of your negative identity
Progress requires unlearning
So how do you form your identity?
Your beliefs are learned and then conditioned through experience
In other words, your habits embody your identity
The word identity is derived from the Latin words essential, which means being, and identidem, which means repeatedly
So your identity is literally your "repeated beingness."
The more evidence you have for a belief, i.e., "I'm terrible with names," the more strongly you will believe it.
The process of building habits is the process of becoming yourself
Fortunately, meaningful change does not require radical change
If a change is meaningful, it is big!
To change who you are, change what you do.
Trust yourself. Learn to trust yourself by doing small habits repeatedly that bring about the small results you're seeking
You don't have to be perfect. You don't need a unanimous vote to become a new you.
Just give yourself new evidence of your new self to create your new identity
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to stand for?
What are your principles and values?
Who do you wish to become?
Maybe you have some big goals. Write those down, then work backward to figure out what you need to do to get there.
"I want to write a book (outcome-based). Who is the type of person who writes books? Someone who is consistent, disciplined, and reliable. Okay. I am a consistent, reliable, disciplined person (identity-based)."
This is a feedback loop. It's a two-way street
Focus on becoming the right type of person you need to be, and the outcome will take care of itself
Know who you want to be. Habits help you become that someone.